My rating: 3 of 5 stars ★★★
Genre: Nonfiction, Parenting
How Toddlers Thrive explains why the toddler years are different from any other period during childhood, what is happening in children’s brains and bodies at this age that makes their behavior so turbulent, and why your reaction to their behavior—the way you speak to, speak about, and act toward your toddler— holds the key to a successful tomorrow and a happier today. (From the Goodreads summary)
I am very aware that this book will only interest a limited audience. But as a mother of a squishy toddler, I thought I’d throw my opinion in the ring anyway.
This parenting book is different than all the other ones I’ve tried. It’s low-key and provides detail into how toddlers’ brains are developing and how that affects their behavior. She gives plenty of every-day, relatable examples.
The overall message is this: Try to understand the world through your toddler’s eyes and let them figure it out for themselves. If you do so, you’ll significantly cut down on the fights you have with your child. Toddlers have expectations and want to achieve them in a certain way because they are learning how to control themselves and their lives. As parents, if we allow toddlers to feel in control, we can help them grow in confidence. You’re basically there to comfort them and help them deal with their negative emotions.
There aren’t a lot to parenting “tools” in here because most of this book consists of: Imagine what your toddler wants. Can you find a way to help them achieve it?
It all made sense to me.
This book largely encourages a permissive style, while still keeping limitations in place?? I’m questioning this because it counsels you to keep limitations for your child, but it never goes into detail about how to do that.
Like, what if you ask your toddler to do something and they turn to you with lots of attitude and yell, “No!” …because I still don’t know, even after reading this book.
However, this book really helped me be more conscious of understanding my toddler and what she expects from different situations. But for me, there wasn’t a lot of new information here. I found that I do a lot of these things already.
With that said, if you find that you are fighting with your toddler constantly, then this book would be good for you to read. It will help you recognize how to mellow out, grow your child’s confidence, and stop the constant battles.